Comments on: Decision '09! http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/ From the Handsome and Charming Mr. Deacon Sun, 27 Jun 2010 15:29:43 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: sean http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/comment-page-1/#comment-311 sean Tue, 06 Jan 2009 21:53:19 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/05/decision-09/#comment-311 Eric, it is always gonna turn into a drunk trainwreck when we hang out. It's just the way it is. It's all good, though. I got one of the chicks from the bachelorette party's number, and now I am probably gonna flake on her. Always an ego boost for me :) Everyone else, I totally recommend Eric's blog at: http://ecsobsession.blogspot.com/ Eric, it is always gonna turn into a drunk trainwreck when we hang out. It’s just the way it is.

It’s all good, though. I got one of the chicks from the bachelorette party’s number, and now I am probably gonna flake on her. Always an ego boost for me :)

Everyone else, I totally recommend Eric’s blog at: http://ecsobsession.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Erik C http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/comment-page-1/#comment-310 Erik C Tue, 06 Jan 2009 21:44:42 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/05/decision-09/#comment-310 I just posted up my goals too, although mine are quite vague, I'll have to do a bit better refining them. Sorry for cutting out on Saturday night, I got too drunk and had to go home and cry... My bad. It was great hanging out with you though, we'll have to do it again and I'll have to not turn in to a drunk train wreak :) I just posted up my goals too, although mine are quite vague, I’ll have to do a bit better refining them. Sorry for cutting out on Saturday night, I got too drunk and had to go home and cry… My bad.

It was great hanging out with you though, we’ll have to do it again and I’ll have to not turn in to a drunk train wreak :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/comment-page-1/#comment-309 Anonymous Tue, 06 Jan 2009 00:26:18 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/05/decision-09/#comment-309 I am afraid I have to disagree. New Year's Resolutions are awesome! I did one last year for fitness and I'm so glad I did it. It's about the action plan. People dont seem to write action plans or have support groups. Thats why they dont follow their resolutions. I am afraid I have to disagree.

New Year’s Resolutions are awesome!

I did one last year for fitness and I’m so glad I did it.

It’s about the action plan. People dont seem to write action plans or have support groups. Thats why they dont follow their resolutions.

]]> By: sean http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/comment-page-1/#comment-307 sean Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:38:30 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/05/decision-09/#comment-307 You bring up a really good point, Max, which is that sometimes goals can seem too big. Big, huge goals are GOOD, but they can stop us in our tracks, paralyzing us with the heft of the task to perform. I am struggling with that with a business idea I have, it seems like such a huge task to get it up and running. What I need to do is to break it down into smaller pieces. I prefer to think of the big goals as VISIONS rather than goals. It is a vision of where I want to be, or what I want to achieve, but the goals are the smaller chunks, they are one length of a switch back while working up the mountain. The goal, or the desired output, should inform the decision that you make. For some things, it is obvious what steps to take to achieve the goal. If you wanted to be a master chef, for instance, your decisions should be to get good knives and cookware, and get a book or take a class about cooking. You can then proceed from there. The steps to take if you want to improve your dating life, or your relationship with a woman, are not always so obvious. I hope that I can help you folks figure out what might be the right approach in this thread. You bring up a really good point, Max, which is that sometimes goals can seem too big. Big, huge goals are GOOD, but they can stop us in our tracks, paralyzing us with the heft of the task to perform. I am struggling with that with a business idea I have, it seems like such a huge task to get it up and running. What I need to do is to break it down into smaller pieces.

I prefer to think of the big goals as VISIONS rather than goals. It is a vision of where I want to be, or what I want to achieve, but the goals are the smaller chunks, they are one length of a switch back while working up the mountain. The goal, or the desired output, should inform the decision that you make.

For some things, it is obvious what steps to take to achieve the goal. If you wanted to be a master chef, for instance, your decisions should be to get good knives and cookware, and get a book or take a class about cooking. You can then proceed from there.

The steps to take if you want to improve your dating life, or your relationship with a woman, are not always so obvious. I hope that I can help you folks figure out what might be the right approach in this thread.

]]> By: Maximus http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/decision-09/comment-page-1/#comment-308 Maximus Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:10:03 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2009/01/05/decision-09/#comment-308 Hey man...a very subtle but great insight! All change happens at the moment of decison. In fact the word decision comes from the latin word meaning "to cut." For example when you decide to quit smoking you cut that behhavior off. None of this "I'm going to cut back" bullshit. Alot of self help teaches one to set goals but this is better. My goals are so big and require so much work that focusing on that far off success actually discourages me. For example handstand pushups are hard and for me require a lot of "remedial" excercses to build up to. When I think in terms of having the copmpleted excercise I lose resolve and don't progress. Better for me to make a decision to do and enjoy those remedial excercise like normal pushups and dips and periodically try for the HS as a benchmark of my progress. I'll probably have a question at some point but for now I am going to let your insight percolate as I go through my day and lay out the week ahead. Thanks! Hey man…a very subtle but great insight! All change happens at the moment of decison. In fact the word decision comes from the latin word meaning “to cut.” For example when you decide to quit smoking you cut that behhavior off. None of this “I’m going to cut back” bullshit.

Alot of self help teaches one to set goals but this is better. My goals are so big and require so much work that focusing on that far off success actually discourages me. For example handstand pushups are hard and for me require a lot of “remedial” excercses to build up to. When I think in terms of having the copmpleted excercise I lose resolve and don’t progress. Better for me to make a decision to do and enjoy those remedial excercise like normal pushups and dips and periodically try for the HS as a benchmark of my progress.

I’ll probably have a question at some point but for now I am going to let your insight percolate as I go through my day and lay out the week ahead.

Thanks!

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