Comments on: It's Not Easy Being Mean (And So Can You!)

By: Nice guys are manipulative bastards | Sean Deacon

Nice guys are manipulative bastards | Sean Deacon — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 15:05:29 +0000

[...] not down on being nice, even if I am sometimes a little mean. It is wonderful to be nice to people, and I may even write an upcoming post about that very [...]

By: sean

sean — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:09:01 +0000

Good insight, David.

A lot of these things, you see, I know THAT they work, David can explain WHY they work.

By: David Clare

David Clare — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:41:24 +0000

Definitely, you gotta own it.

The next step is understanding that when a women accuses you of being mean, you just scored a direct hit on something she is emotionally sensitive about.

By laughing it off, you allow her to dissipate her insecurity: since you aren’t worried about it, she isn’t either.

Being self-defensive (”I’m not mean!”) a man invalidates her emotions, which turns her insecurity into anger. Men that can’t handle a woman’s insecurity are typically much less capable of handling a woman’s anger… things get ugly fast, as I also know all too well.

Excellent post!