More and more I think that the secret to women is that they just want to give love to a man. That is what they, as women, have to offer us. The hard part is being able to accept all that love as a man. Might sound silly, easy, or stupid, but I guarantee that it is a lot harder than it sounds, and women are frustrated at not being able to find a man that can accept their love while remaining a strong man.
I have talked to very aware men and women about this to come to these conclusions.
Here’s an illustration of what I am getting at. This is a story from the weekend I took Art of Attraction. We were out at Holy Cow, I was walking around, bouncing from set to set. I end up next to this girl who is sitting on a tall barstool chair. Good body language, comfortable kino, banter, etc., and start having a decent conversation. Some of the workshop guys come by, we all chat, have fun. They leave. The whole time I am smiling like crazy. Not like a retard, but like someone who is genuinely happy (I was, by the way). After a few more minutes, I tell her, “my friends will probably be around in a few minutes, and they will probably drag me away to go to the bathroom or something, so we may only have 5 or 10 minutes here.”
She then said to me, “what if I don’t let them take you?”
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How do you answer here? I didn’t answer correctly. I made some random comment that wasn’t great at all.
I’ve thought about this, because I am bummed I let this one get away, when I could have easily gotten a date with this great woman. Here’s what I think the right answer is:
“Then I’d stay here, and talk with you until the rest of the world faded away, and we would have our own safe corner away from everything, and while holding your hand, I would let your smile melt me..”
And I would have a big warm smile on my face as I said it.
In a small way, in some sense, she was offering me her love. It was time for me to step up to the plate and show her that I could accept that while remaining a man. Maybe that is a bit of overkill of analysis, but I think there is truth in this.