Sean Deacon

It is the time of year for resolutions. A lot of guys who want to improve their lives (especially their LOVE lives) make resolutions around this time. A lot of men look back on their year and see that they want something to change. They are finally going to do the work to make the changes happen.

Now, New Year’s resolutions are notoriously hard to keep. I know it, you know it, and the 1,600 page copy of “War and Peace” that I read the first two pages of (after resolving to read that novel a few years ago) knows it.

I spent this New Year’s with my girl. We talked a bit about resolutions, and I told her I don’t really make any, because I can NEVER keep them. She said that the reason that people often don’t follow through on their resolutions is that they set the bar too high. She told me about a friend who always resolved to “run more”, but never did. Finally, this friend made the resolution that every day, she would put on her running shoes and step outside. This goal is easily achievable, I mean, all you have to do is step outside, right? What happened is that this friend ended up running more that year because the goal was easy to achieve, but more often than not it led to a nice jog.

Here it is, January 2nd, and I started thinking about this idea. I also have thought about one thing that I have noticed. The hardest part of any approach is taking that first step of walking towards a girl you want to hit on. Once you start walking, you don’t think about the nervousness as much, and your mind starts to think about what you are actually going to say.

FRI through MON - YEEEAAARGH!So friday, I was waiting till field work at night in the Marina to turn on the radar. I saw her late at night as I was talking to my students, she was walking up the street right outside the Matrix. I didn’t abandon my students, so I got a NO.

I thought this was gonna be a bad day… but then it wasn’t!

I saw my girl of the day over lunch.  She was walking down the street.  I caught up to her after a block, “excuse me…” she kind of jumped, but took off her earphones, I told her, “I didn’t mean to scare you.  I know this is random, but I have to tell you that you are really cute..”

She lights up, says thank you.  I told her that I have a rule that I have to tell the cutest girl I see each day that.  She thanks me again, and then she got going.

Today is a YES. 67%.

Man, this day was just a lousy day.  I was stressed with work, didn’t really leave the office, then went home, had a couple beers and relaxed.  

I think the hottest girl was in A.G. Farrari foods.  She was leaving as I was checking out.  She wasn’t hot in the traditional sense, she was cute and she had an alternative look.  I kind of psyched myself out, thinking she wasn’t the hottest I would see, but then nothing else really appeared that day.  Lesson - DO NOT THINK AND DO NOT HESITATE.  IF I SEE A CUTE GIRL, GO FLIRT.

I am NOT losing this competition.  I am at 1 for 2, 50%.

My first girl of the day was at lunch. I saw a girl earlier during my coffee break, but missed her because she was walking into a building down the street. Damn.So I was out on my lunch break with a buddy. He knew about the challenge, so he knew I might go running off at any time. We were walking to the Metreon, and there was a guy and a girl sitting on a bench. And the girl was tall and blonde and super cute. I walked by, then looked at my buddy. “That might be her… yeah, I think that’s her”. I walked back, interupted, told her she was really cute, and I’m sorry to intrude, and wished them both a great lunch. They were both really happy.