Comments for Sean Deacon http://blog.seandeacon.com Confident Flirting, Dating, and Manhood in San Francisco Fri, 22 Aug 2008 01:20:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 Comment on Thoughts On Peacocking by Psychic Advice http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4946 Psychic Advice Sun, 13 Jul 2008 07:12:27 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4946 Too bad i didnt come across this blog before. Great stuff you got here. Thanks. Too bad i didnt come across this blog before. Great stuff you got here. Thanks.

]]> Comment on Thoughts On Peacocking by Nathan http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4878 Nathan Mon, 07 Jul 2008 16:13:01 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4878 yeah, i have always found the idea of pea-cocking interesting, most guys go waaaaay over the top with this, but i think once you become more socially aware you learn how to calibrate the way you dress to fit your personality at that time. yeah, i have always found the idea of pea-cocking interesting, most guys go waaaaay over the top with this, but i think once you become more socially aware you learn how to calibrate the way you dress to fit your personality at that time.

]]> Comment on FR: Time To Hit The Sac by GY http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/20/fr-time-to-hit-the-sac/#comment-4536 GY Wed, 11 Jun 2008 02:42:48 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/20/fr-time-to-hit-the-sac/#comment-4536 Whoops... Singles capitol of CA. Whoops… Singles capitol of CA.

]]> Comment on FR: Time To Hit The Sac by GY http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/20/fr-time-to-hit-the-sac/#comment-4535 GY Wed, 11 Jun 2008 02:42:22 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/20/fr-time-to-hit-the-sac/#comment-4535 Interesting... I live in Sac. Singles capitol of Sacramento... Her recoil at your crossroads question is typical... Capitol city mentality. She's typical in the "I want a relationship" status... retreat, and she'll follow. Lemme know next time you're in the area. Interesting… I live in Sac.

Singles capitol of Sacramento… Her recoil at your crossroads question is typical… Capitol city mentality. She’s typical in the “I want a relationship” status… retreat, and she’ll follow.

Lemme know next time you’re in the area.

]]> Comment on It’s True: Flirting Is Meaningless! by Darren http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/03/its-true-flirting-is-meaningless/#comment-4210 Darren Sat, 10 May 2008 19:19:31 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/03/its-true-flirting-is-meaningless/#comment-4210 While I realize the point of your article "flirting is meaningless" is aimed at helping people realize that they should not fear approaching and flirting with the opposite sex. I believe that "flirting" is important in almost all aspects of life. Not the actual flirting itself but the tools and techniques one employs in flirting to get a desired result are traits that are transferable to all communication both verbal and non verbal. If you know how to use these skills with flirting with women you will most surely be successfully in other types of personal communication. For info on some of these flirting tips and tricks visit http://publicflirt.com While I realize the point of your article “flirting is meaningless” is aimed at helping people realize that they should not fear approaching and flirting with the opposite sex. I believe that “flirting” is important in almost all aspects of life. Not the actual flirting itself but the tools and techniques one employs in flirting to get a desired result are traits that are transferable to all communication both verbal and non verbal. If you know how to use these skills with flirting with women you will most surely be successfully in other types of personal communication. For info on some of these flirting tips and tricks visit
http://publicflirt.com

]]> Comment on Thoughts On Peacocking by Darren http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4068 Darren Thu, 01 May 2008 22:52:17 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2008/03/06/thoughts-on-peacocking/#comment-4068 Nice article on peacocking...I think its an important concept to understand especially in todays dating scene... for more info specifically on appearance and peacocking check out http://publicflirt.com/on-looking-your-best/ Keep up the good work... -D Nice article on peacocking…I think its an important concept to understand especially in todays dating scene… for more info specifically on appearance and peacocking check out http://publicflirt.com/on-looking-your-best/

Keep up the good work…

-D

]]> Comment on He’s Pushing Her Away From a Relationship by Pete http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/01/09/pushing-away/#comment-3891 Pete Fri, 18 Apr 2008 16:08:39 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/01/09/pushing-away/#comment-3891 I learned abou you thru your Pickup Podcast interview. I agree with you Sean that attraction and intimacy define a relationship more than "the talk" in the early stages; however, the story doesn't give examples of the man's "pushing" behavior. There is plenty of PUA material on dealing with resistance that applied to a woman could feel like "pushing" to her. Perhaps the man is needy or perhaps the couple has gone out numerous times in the 3 weeks with good conversation, fun activity, physical affection and sexual touch, and the man just has the mindset of one seeking a long term relationship. You use the terms committed and serious to describe the relationship that the man wanted but I wonder what he said? Perhaps he just said "I want us to see each other exclusively" and your lady friend got nervous for whatever reason. There appear to me to be many couples who start dating exclusively after a short time and this tendency seems more prevalent the older people become. In my experience commitment to being exclusive allows people to invest more without fear. One can push too soon but commitment really is needed for long term growth. There is a risk of complacency with exclusive dating but exclusive dating ideally and in my experience is more like a beginning for fuller self disclosure along with increased connections with families and friends. I enter exclusive dating with the thought that I am going to focus on one to see if we are a fit for a LTR, in my case marriage. If it isn't a fit then for your sake and the woman's sake then break it off. Don't keep a relationship for convenience. Dating exclusively has the cost of not seeing others but it is not a life long commitment. In other words, relax girl! But maybe I'm missing something and the man wants to live with her or marry her? Without examples of his pushing and without knowledge of the number and quality of their dates it is hard for me to following the breaking off option of you advice. Negotiating needs and wants is apart of relatng even very early on. The issue is not that he wants something she doesn't but does he communicate to her with respect. Disrespect is a red flag. I believe people can passionately present their views and argue and still maintain respect by not attacking personally or later punishing for disagreements with subtle or overt hostile behavior. In the long run couples negotiate about all of life and negotiations on some things may take a long time. She wants to consider his pattern of negotiating to see what kind of partner he'd be long term. He's a man so he wants to lead but does he consider her feelings or does he attack her when she disagrees? I wanted my thoughts out there and am not looking for a response on an older post. Peace I learned abou you thru your Pickup Podcast interview.

I agree with you Sean that attraction and intimacy define a relationship more than “the talk” in the early stages; however, the story doesn’t give examples of the man’s “pushing” behavior. There is plenty of PUA material on dealing with resistance that applied to a woman could feel like “pushing” to her. Perhaps the man is needy or perhaps the couple has gone out numerous times in the 3 weeks with good conversation, fun activity, physical affection and sexual touch, and the man just has the mindset of one seeking a long term relationship. You use the terms committed and serious to describe the relationship that the man wanted but I wonder what he said? Perhaps he just said “I want us to see each other exclusively” and your lady friend got nervous for whatever reason. There appear to me to be many couples who start dating exclusively after a short time and this tendency seems more prevalent the older people become. In my experience commitment to being exclusive allows people to invest more without fear. One can push too soon but commitment really is needed for long term growth. There is a risk of complacency with exclusive dating but exclusive dating ideally and in my experience is more like a beginning for fuller self disclosure along with increased connections with families and friends. I enter exclusive dating with the thought that I am going to focus on one to see if we are a fit for a LTR, in my case marriage. If it isn’t a fit then for your sake and the woman’s sake then break it off. Don’t keep a relationship for convenience. Dating exclusively has the cost of not seeing others but it is not a life long commitment. In other words, relax girl! But maybe I’m missing something and the man wants to live with her or marry her?

Without examples of his pushing and without knowledge of the number and quality of their dates it is hard for me to following the breaking off option of you advice. Negotiating needs and wants is apart of relatng even very early on. The issue is not that he wants something she doesn’t but does he communicate to her with respect. Disrespect is a red flag. I believe people can passionately present their views and argue and still maintain respect by not attacking personally or later punishing for disagreements with subtle or overt hostile behavior. In the long run couples negotiate about all of life and negotiations on some things may take a long time. She wants to consider his pattern of negotiating to see what kind of partner he’d be long term. He’s a man so he wants to lead but does he consider her feelings or does he attack her when she disagrees?

I wanted my thoughts out there and am not looking for a response on an older post.

Peace

]]> Comment on GotD Day 3: earphones by Pete http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/28/gotd-day-3-earphones/#comment-3890 Pete Fri, 18 Apr 2008 13:53:04 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2006/09/28/gotd-day-3-earphones/#comment-3890 How special does a woman feel being told that you approach a pretty woman every day? Would she feel like a game? Would she respect you as a man to be taken seriously? How special does a woman feel being told that you approach a pretty woman every day? Would she feel like a game? Would she respect you as a man to be taken seriously?

]]> Comment on Improve Your Hand by Omar http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/09/06/improve-your-hand/#comment-3817 Omar Fri, 11 Apr 2008 06:24:04 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/09/06/improve-your-hand/#comment-3817 You are the brick! Reading stuff like this written in the way like this is a great pleasure for me. You are the brick! Reading stuff like this written in the way like this is a great pleasure for me.

]]> Comment on Should You Pay For A Woman On A Date? by brayo http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/09/18/should-you-pay-for-a-woman-on-a-date/#comment-3695 brayo Wed, 02 Apr 2008 04:02:45 +0000 http://blog.seandeacon.com/2007/09/18/should-you-pay-for-a-woman-on-a-date/#comment-3695 I fill like times have change, women now days want to prove to men they are independent e.g like when u get decent girl from the dance floor and have a seat to chat she would insist that she wants to pay for the drink. it has always owrked for me. But when it come to couple they should always share 50/50 guys should not suffer. good example is like when a couple goes for a movie one will buy tickets the other would buy the snacks or food.. I fill like times have change, women now days want to prove to men they are independent e.g like when u get decent girl from the dance floor and have a seat to chat she would insist that she wants to pay for the drink. it has always owrked for me.
But when it come to couple they should always share 50/50 guys should not suffer. good example is like when a couple goes for a movie one will buy tickets the other would buy the snacks or food..

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